Baby Stuff: From One New Parent to Another, Month Four

I promise to not make this a “mommy blog.” No offense to mommy bloggers worldwide, but that’s not my primary reason for writing. I’ve been actively writing in some form since I was about seven years old; this is much deeper than creating a blog for the top ten smartphone apps for moms, or the best clothing brands for moms and their babies, and so on.

But I do like finding baby stuff that works for us and Little Bean. And when family members expecting their first child, a girl, asked for product advice, I gladly sent some over in an email.

Clothing sizes are wacky. L.B. is almost 4 months old and he’s wearing 9-month sizes for some things and 6-month sizes for others. Gerber clothing runs very small, and all the clothes shrink in the wash. With that being said, you don’t need Newborn clothing unless your daughter ends up being a premie. You can start with 3-month sizes.

You don’t need a ton of “adult-looking” clothes. People bought us little shorts and shirts for L.B., but I don’t really dress him in them. He’s basically living in pajamas. Have plenty of onesies and little sleeper suits (they can be the dress kind or the kind with the feet). That will probably be all your daughter needs. Maybe a dress for going to special events, but just one is really all you need. Dressing babies can be challenging! L.B. hates getting dressed. Also, avoid snap-on clothes as much as you can. Zippers will be your best friend, especially in the middle of the night when you need to dress her again after a diaper change and your eyes are sticky and you can’t see straight.

Diapers! You many not need many newborn diapers, but maybe have a box on hand. Size 1 may serve you well enough. Newborn diapers are the cheapest, and then the prices go up from there. We like Huggies Little Snugglers and Pampers Swadlers. They’re both very soft, very absorbent, and they have a pee strip down the middle that goes from yellow to blue when the babies go pee. Very helpful, especially for those middle-of-the-night changes when, again, your eyes are sticky and you can’t see straight. :) If you want to go organic, Honest and Babyganics make good diapers.

We like the Pampers Sensitive and the Huggies Natural diaper wipes. Honest wipes are good too.

We were recommended this butt paste, and it’s amazing. It really is all it’s cracked up to be. Our son had a really bad diaper rash that cleared up in a day with this stuff.

Swings can help babies go to sleep! Make sure to request a swing that swings by itself/plugs in if you do a registry. We were given this one and it saved our lives when L.B. wasn’t able to fall asleep on his own.

Pacifiers can help babies go to sleep too! L.B. loves the newborn ones made by MAM

Swaddles can help with sleep! You’ll probably learn to swaddle in the hospital/birthing center/not sure where you’re having your baby. Buy a few receiving blankets; they’re incredible. We like the ones made by Carter. They’re soft, stretchy, and they don’t shrink in the wash.

These are the best bottles on the planet: Dr. Brown’s. They are a total pain to clean (but they are top-rack dishwasher safe!)

Babies don’t need shoes, only socks. People got us tons of shoes for our son, and he doesn’t wear them. He kicks them off.

Now for the mom needs…

She can get a free breast pump thanks to Obamacare, so have her look into that. I liked the Spectra S2. It’s a closed system (meaning bacteria can’t get into it) and it’s very powerful. I preferred it over some of the other major brands.

Mother’s Milk tea is good for increasing milk supply

This is great if she needs some comfort while breastfeeding.

Also… read up on the “fourth trimester.” Hormonal dump after baby is REAL. She will need care too, because she will be a newborn mother. Set up that support system now so she has help when needed. If she has a c-section, she won’t be able to really do much for six weeks, so most of the heavy lifting (no pun intended) will be on you. If she gives birth naturally, she will recover faster physically, but she’ll have lots of other challenges with healing up down there, so you’ll still have to carry a lot of the load.

The second day the baby is here will probably be the hardest one of her entire infancy. So don’t worry if it feels impossible. It will get better.


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